-A Note from Alex and Kadi-
Congratulations on your marriage! As you step onto this beautiful path, you've committed to a lifelong journey filled with immeasurable joy and companionship with your spouse, and of course, countless opportunities to learn. Marriage is an amazing adventure, a unique blend of love, growth, and partnership that only deepens with time (when it's well spent).
On this special night, take a moment to cherish the relationship you've formed and the beloved person that is with you now.
We encourage you to take this time to connect deeply with your spouse. Use this guide and your Bridal Box to make your experience that much more meaningful and magical. Let tonight be a reflection of your commitment and love, setting the tone for a marriage filled with depth and delight.
As you celebrate tonight, remember that your journey together is just beginning. Here's to a life filled with love, laughter, and happiness. We are wishing you both a wonderful and memorable night filled with joy and intimate connection. We couldn't be happier for you.
Item List
Choice of Bridal Lingerie
French Lavender Cocktail Cubes
Cheers to Us Cards
Garter
Naked Silk Lube
Mr and Mrs First Night Memories Stationary
Rustic Bakery Cookies
2 Royal Wipes
2 Royal Condoms
Mr and Mrs perfume/cologne
Bliss Massage Oil
Suggested Uses for Your Products
Lingerie
here are so many wonderful ways to incorporate lingerie into your marriage. On your wedding night, we recommend wearing a piece that makes you feel both comfortable and beautiful. It can be helpful to talk with your fiancé before the wedding about their expectations for lingerie. For example, Do you both want it to be worn on the wedding night, do you both think it would be nice to spend some time in or will it be taken off immediately? Questions like this can be helpful so you are on the same page, but be ready to communicate during your first night so no one is left wondering or assuming. Our lingerie is as exquisitely soft as it is beautiful, so it is the perfect lingerie to pack for your special night.
Cheers to Us Cards
These cards can be used at any point in your relationship but will be especially meaningful as your marriage grows with time. They are great to pack along for your honeymoon. Spending time in the Celebrate and Anticipate categories can be an exciting way to start your emotional connection and begin to create a unified vision of what your future looks like as a couple. If you purchased this box at the Bridal Show, you also have the unique opportunity to use the club soda and lavender cocktail cubes to make toasts to each other as you respond to the prompts in this card deck.
Garter
This can be worn on the day of your wedding as your garter, and you can also save it as a special surprise on your honeymoon. It pairs beautifully with any of our bridal lingerie. Wearing it down the road can also be a wonderful way to spark memories of your wedding day and your first few nights together.
Naked Silk Lube
Naked Silk is a water-silicone hybrid personal lubricant that feels like the real thing. It can be used safely with latex, rubber, and plastic.
With this lube, a little bit goes a long way. If it's your first time using lube we recommend testing it out by manually stimulating your partner first. This will ensure the lube feels good on your body and give you an idea of how much you will need.
First Night Memories Stationary
Use these prompts to help you write a sentimental note to commemorate your wedding night and honeymoon.
-Share your favorite moment from the wedding day.
-Share your positive thoughts on how your spouse looked on the wedding day.
-Write down your favorite parts of your spouse's body.
-Reflect on the sensations you had while being physically intimate.
-What is something you did on your wedding night or honeymoon that you would LOVE to do again soon?
-Share something your spouse did that made the night extra special.
-Write down how you got undressed together, what the room looked or felt like.
-Journal a few of the sweet things you said to each other over the course of the day and night.
-Write down your first dance song, the song you walked down the aisle to, and the songs you listened to on your wedding night.
-Share some of your hopes and dreams for your future together.
Rustic Bakery Cookies
The perfect snack for after a long day of living, laughing and loving ;)
Royal Wipes
These are great for clean up! We also recommend keeping a comfortable towel handy for any bigger messes and using the wipes for anything small remaining.
Royal Condoms
If youre using condoms, Tailored Fit by Royal Intimacy condoms are completely vegan, made from natural latex, and 35% thinner for maximum comfort. They are an awesome condom and extremely comfortable.
Pro-tip : If you are new to condoms, place a couple of drops of lube on yourself before putting the condom on!
Mr and Mrs perfume/cologne
We bought a special perfume and cologne just for our wedding day and it has been so wonderful to have. We pull it out for date nights and other special occasions, and every time we smell each other's fragrances we reminisce on our wedding day. I still get butterflies when I smell his cologne.
This set is perfect to be worn on your wedding day, reapplied for your wedding night, and any day thereafter where you are feeling nostalgic and want to celebrate your love! The fragrance profiles go beautifully together so you can be as close as you want and the blend will be intoxicating.
Bliss Massage Oil
Our favorite massage oil! Smooth and luxurious, it rubs gently into the skin and can be used for a sensual wedding night or honeymoon massage. Just apply a few drops onto your hand, warm it by gently rubbing your hands together, and massage your spouse. This can be a great warm-up into further intimacy, and it can also be used on its own.
Beyond the Box
We've meticulously crafted this comprehensive wedding guide, complete with an array of detailed worksheets, thought-provoking questions, and invaluable content that we wished was available to us when we were planning our own wedding.
Our heartfelt aim is to enrich your journey into marriage, offering guidance and support that sets the foundation for a successful and fulfilling union. We truly hope this guide becomes a treasured resource that blesses your marriage.
Tips from Alex and Kadi
If you’re engaged and preparing for marriage, it's normal to have many thoughts and emotions about your upcoming wedding night. Are you comfortable discussing your expectations about sex with your partner? Starting these conversations can feel daunting, yet they are incredibly important for building a strong foundation in your relationship.
Reflecting on my own experience, even after five years of marriage, I vividly remember our wedding night. It wasn't the storybook evening many imagine, but it was the beginning of an essential journey of communication and understanding between my partner and me.
Background and Beliefs
Growing up within the church, I was taught that sex was intended for marriage—a sacred bond. However, the emphasis often lay on the negatives of premarital sex, which fostered great anticipation for intimacy, but no real knowledge on how to do it well.
As our wedding approached, neither of us really realized the need to discuss sexual expectations, or truly and fully understood what those expectations would be. This can be true for couples that have been intimate before, too. The entire dynamic of your relationship can shift when you get married, so expecting everything to be the same as when you were engaged might leave room for disappointment. It's important to talk about what you think your expectations might be, to be loving and open toward your fiancé's feelings, and to check in with each other regularly after you get married to truly know how you are both doing.
Our Experience
On our wedding night, consummating our marriage was incredibly special because we both truly cared deeply for one another and listened to the desires and sensations of the other person. It definitely wasn't the best sex we've ever had, though, and coming in with the expectation that there might not be a storybook finish on night one was crucial to moving forward into wedded bliss and a happy honeymoon celebration.
This experience taught us that wedding night sex wasn't the monumental, life-altering event many imagine. Instead, it was a step in the ongoing journey of our relationship—a journey that includes honest communication, mutual understanding, and the occasional health issue or challenge. Learning to express our expectations and listen to each other has continuously improved our intimacy.
Expectations vs Reality
If you're wondering about your own wedding night, know that experiences vary greatly. Some couples have a magical night, while others face challenges. Here’s some heartfelt advice I’d share:
- Communicate Openly: Start these discussions early. Understand each other's expectations and fears without judgment. Expect things to change as you grow together, and talk regularly so that you stay on the same page as your love story progresses. The more you communicate, the better it gets.
- Manage Expectations: It's perfectly okay if your wedding night isn't perfect. Intimacy can take time to feel right. Even if you've been intimate before, putting this much pressure on one night when there are so many other factors to your wedding can be a detriment to your marriage. So try to go with the flow and appreciate your spouse for everything they are, not just the sex.
- Take It Slow: If you are a virgin, or if it's your first time with your spouse, physical intimacy can be uncomfortable or even painful initially. Be patient and gentle with each other. Communicate what feels good and what doesn't.
- Seek Help If Needed: Don't hesitate to consult a healthcare provider if you have concerns about pain or discomfort.
- Laugh and Learn Together: Embrace the awkward moments. Don't be afraid to laugh together, flirt playfully, and then try again!
- Embrace the Messiness: Real-life intimacy is rarely like the movies. Expect moments where you might need to pause and readjust, expect to maybe feel tired at some points, and expect a little mess!
- Enjoy the Journey: Release any rigid expectations. Focus on building a foundation of trust together and exploring intimacy as an extension of your love and commitment to each other.
Approaching your wedding night and marital intimacy with a mindset of exploration and understanding can transform it from a source of stress to one of joy and deep connection. Remember, two becoming one is more than just sex- it's the bond you are forming together and the life you are committed to build alongside your beloved.