Kiss-mas Countdown
The pressure of the hands causes the springs of life to flow.
For this night, cleanse your mind of all memories past and savor every sensation with your love as if it were the first magical moment together.
Let every time your bodies connect ignite a passion in you so enthralling, it is as if your touch has the power to inspire a love more precious than gold.
Sexy Scenarios
Optional Prayer and Verse for Your Marriage
Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
"We thank You for the gift of love and the blessing of our relationship. As we embark on this date night, may it be a time of joy, connection, and intimacy. Help us to cherish each other deeply and to communicate openly, creating beautiful memories together. May this experience draw us closer to one another and to You."
Scenario 1 - Every Time We Touch
The Gold Standard Massage Game
Heighten your senses and deepen intimacy by focusing solely on touch and sound—letting your bodies do the talking.
Preparation: He lights the incense using the matches and allow the scent to fill the room (we recommend testing the incense outdoors first to ensure that you enjoy the scent). Turn on the Midas Touch playlist. She sprays herself and him lightly with the gold shimmer spray. They gently rub the spray into each other's skin, their touch
He lays out soft blankets or towels and keep the pheromone massage oil* within reach. She changes into the gold lingerie and they begin the Massage Game.
How to Play:
- The Rule: You’re only allowed to make two sounds—“Mmm” and “Aaah”—throughout the entire massage. No talking, just pure, instinctive responses to each other’s touch.
- Choose who starts as the giver and the receiver. The giver starts by slowly applying the pheromone-infused massage oil to their partner’s skin, using soft, gliding strokes. As the oil absorbs, the attraction between you will naturally heighten, making every touch feel more electric and intimate.
- Let the Sounds Guide You: The receiver responds with a “Mmm” when they love what the giver is doing, or an “Aaah” when they crave more of that touch. As the desire intensifies from the pheromones, the sounds of pleasure will become more urgent, leading to even deeper exploration.
- "Go for Gold": As the sounds of pleasure escalate and the pheromones work their magic, the giver can sense when the tension has reached its peak. End the massage with one final slow press of your hands. When both of you can’t resist the pull any longer, the game will naturally transition into whatever comes next.
Bonus Rules:
- If either of you breaks the “Mmm” or “Aaah” rule by saying something else, the other partner can take control for 5 minutes, deciding how the massage will continue—or stop—for that time.
- For extra fun, she can change into the gold chain halfway through the massage!
Bonus activity: Spread the sparkle honey over an area of your body that your partner can lick off in a seductive way!
They end the night cuddling in each other's arms and going over connecting questions.
*Special Ingredient: The massage oil isn’t just any oil—it’s infused with pheromones, designed to subtly increase attraction and induce a powerful longing for one another as the oil is absorbed into your skin. With every touch, the desire between you will grow, building the intensity of your connection.
Scenario 2- More Precious Than Gold
Deepen your emotional connection through heartfelt conversations, synchronized breathing, and intimate touch.
Light the incense with the matches, and let the fragrance fill the air (we recommend testing the incense outdoors first to ensure that you enjoy the scent). Apply the gold shimmer spray to each other and admire how your skin sparkles in the low light, symbolizing how precious you are to one another. As you apply the shimmer spray, each share 1-2 things you admire about the other.
Cuddle together in a cozy space. You’ll start by sharing ways in which you cherish one another (use the prompts from Cherishing Conversations if needed).
Connecting Questions
- What’s a memory of ours that always makes you smile when you think about it?”
- How did our relationship change your view of love and marriage?
- What is something I do now that reminds you of why you chose me as your partner?
Synchronized Breathing Exercise
After sharing emotionally, transition into a more physical, yet still intimate practice—synchronized breathing.
1. Facing Each Other: Sit facing one another, close enough to touch, but without touching just yet. Begin by gently matching each other’s breath—inhale when your partner inhales, and exhale when they do. Keep your eyes softly closed or gaze into each other’s eyes, focusing solely on the rhythm of your shared breath.
2. Deepen the Connection: As you start to synchronize, place your hands on each other’s chest so you can feel the rise and fall of your breath together. This helps to ground both of you in the present moment, reminding you of your shared bond and the love that flows between you.
Breathing While Making Love
Once you’ve mastered synchronized breathing, carry that deep connection into a physical expression of your love.
1. Stay Present: As you come together, keep focusing on matching each other’s breath—inhale and exhale in sync while your bodies move together. The goal is to not rush, but to stay completely present with each other, feeling every movement, every touch, every breath as one.
2. Build the Intensity: The longer you stay connected through your breathing, the more intense your emotional and physical connection will become. Allow your synchronized breath to guide the rhythm and pace, cherishing each other slowly through touch and keeping your breathing unified. This sense of oneness will create an experience that feels both tender and electrifying.
The Final Moment—A Year Apart
Now, end the evening with a powerful exercise in cherishing each other as if this were your last moment together for the next year.
1. Hold and Touch: Sit or lie down, holding each other close. Imagine that after tonight, you won’t see each other for an entire year. This is your last chance to hold each other, to kiss, to touch, and to speak from the heart.
2. What Would You Say? Whisper to each other what you would say in this final moment—what would you want your partner to remember, to feel? Let the weight of this imaginary separation make every word, every touch more meaningful.
3. Final Hold: End by holding each other in complete stillness, just breathing together, as if you never want to let go.
Why This Works:
This experience blends emotional and physical intimacy, making you both feel deeply cherished and connected. By starting with questions that open up your hearts, then moving into a synchronized breathing practice, and ending with a powerful visualization, you'll strengthen your bond and create memories that last long after the night ends.
Scenario 3 - You Can Look, But Please Don’t Touch
Test your willpower and build anticipation as one partner shows off while the other remains still in bed, unable to touch—until they decide to take action. The partner who can resist touching the longest wins.
Setup:
1. The Mirror Setup: One partner will sit on the bed or couch while the other stands in front of them. The standing partner will place a mirror a few feet behind themselves so their partner can catch glimpses posing of them from multiple angles (If posing partner is facing the bed, their spouse will be able to see their back in the mirror).
2. The Challenge: One partner will perform a series of poses or actions (sweet, sexy, and daring) while the other sits or lies in bed, watching but not touching. The sitting partner will decide when they can no longer resist and initiate something more.
3. The Win: The partner who can hold out the longest without touching wins the game. Whoever makes it further down the list gets to “win” by either coming first or getting a different prize of their choice.
Bonus tips:
- Turn on the Midas Touch playlist to help set the mood.
- The posing partner may change outfits or utilize props when they choose.
- She may choose to wear a sexy/fancy outfit with the gold lingerie or gold chain underneath.
- He may choose to begin by wearing a fancy suit or sexy pajamas/boxers.
- He may want to spray himself with the Golden Glitter Spray or rub himself down with body oil during his turn.
- We recommend grabbing a chair for the posing partner.
*We created a sexy sequence as an example. Or come up with your own order and actions using the options below as inspiration.
To begin:
Choose your top three from each category before you begin and craft your sexy sequence!
OR USE this bank of example actions to create your own sequence as you go!
Sweet Poses (to Start Slow)
- Gentle Hair Toss: Run your fingers slowly through your hair, letting it cascade down your back or shoulders.
- Blow a Kiss: Turn your head to the mirror and then back toward your partner, blowing a sweet kiss with a playful smile.
- Crossed Legs Pose: Sit on the edge of the bed or a chair, legs crossed and hands resting gently on your lap.
- Hand Over Heart: Stand tall with your hand over your heart, gazing softly at your partner, symbolizing your affection.
- Spinning Twirl: Do a slow twirl in place, letting your body move softly as your partner watches your every move.
- Gentle Stretch: Stretch your arms up above your head, as if just waking up, making the movement long and graceful.
- Swaying Hips: Stand and gently sway your hips from side to side, moving to the rhythm of your own breath.
- Wink: Turn your body to the side and glance back at your partner, giving them a cute, playful wink.
- Knee-Up Pose: Stand and bring one knee up as if you’re posing in a soft, pin-up style, balancing on one leg.
- Soft Touch: Gently run your fingers down your arm or leg, showing softness and tenderness, but without any rush.
Sexy Poses (Turn Up the Heat)
- Slow Shirt Removal: Slowly unbutton your shirt or slide your top off one shoulder, teasing without rushing to reveal.
- Hands Over Head Pose: Stand facing your partner with your hands above your head, letting your body be fully open to their gaze.
- Legs Crossed on the Bed: Sit or lie on the bed, one leg draped over the other, propped on your elbows with a flirty smile.
- Mirror Gaze: Turn toward the mirror and look at yourself seductively, as if admiring your own beauty, knowing your partner is watching.
- Pulling Panties Aside: Tease your partner by pulling your panties or underwear aside just enough to expose a small part of yourself. Hold the pose for a moment, letting them take in the sight before covering back up.
- Hip Pop: Stand with one hand on your hip, slightly pushing your hips to one side in a confident, alluring stance.
- Tease with a Sheet: Hold a bed sheet or blanket and wrap it around your body, slowly revealing parts of yourself in a playful tease.
- Oil rub: Begin applying oil to various parts of your body, slowly getting closer to you partner so the pheromones entice them.
- Lowering Zipper: Slowly lower a zipper on your clothing, holding eye contact with your partner the entire time.
- Finger Trail Underneath: Slide one hand under the fabric of your underwear, just letting your fingertips graze your skin. Move your hand slowly, drawing it back out after a few seconds to tease your partner by only hinting at what's beneath.
Daring Poses(For the Bold)
- Bend Over Slowly: Stand facing away from your partner and slowly bend over, giving them a full view.
- Clothing Slide: Slowly slide off a key piece of clothing—like pants or lingerie—letting it fall to the floor in one smooth motion.
- Knees on the Bed: Get on your knees on the bed and crawl slowly toward your partner, stopping just before you’re within touching distance.
- Sweet as Honey: Lick a little honey off of your honeycomb stick, then drizzle it seductively down your body and or lips and gesture with your finger for your spouse to join you.
- Mirror Striptease: Face the mirror and begin removing clothing slowly, allowing both yourself and your partner to watch as you reveal more and more.
- Hovering Kiss: Lean in as if you're about to kiss your partner, but stop just millimeters from their lips. Let your breath tickle their skin and hover there for a few seconds before pulling away, keeping them craving more.
- Hands on the Headboard: Kneel on the bed and lean forward to grab the headboard, pushing your hips slightly backward in a provocative pose. Glance over your shoulder at your partner while holding that position.
- Legs Wide Open on the Bed: Sit at the edge of the bed with your legs spread wide open, one hand resting gently on your inner thigh while maintaining steady eye contact with your partner. It’s an invitation to test their willpower.
- Clothing Drop at Your Feet:
Stand in front of your partner, lock eyes, and let a piece of clothing slip slowly down your body until it falls to your feet. Then, slowly step out of it without breaking eye contact. - Close their eyes: Have the sitting partner close their eyes for 15 seconds while you get into a seductive pose.
- Slow Full-Body Caress: Stand in front of your partner and slowly run your hands over your body, starting at your neck and moving down to your chest, stomach, and hips. Tease them by gently squeezing or stroking sensitive areas, making it clear that you're enjoying your own touch.
- Self-Cupping Tease: Place both hands over your chest, gently cupping and squeezing, but do it slowly and teasingly. Let your fingers trail off after each caress, making it clear that you’re appreciating your own touch.
- Finger Suck Tease: Bring one finger to your lips and slowly, sensually lick or suck on it while maintaining eye contact with your partner. Then, let your hand trail down your body in a lingering, teasing motion.
- Breathe Along Their Neck: Lie next to your partner and slowly exhale along their neck and collarbone, your breath barely touching their skin. Trace your breath around their body but hold back from actual contact, making them want to pull you closer.
- Ask What They Want: Tease your partner by asking, “What do you want me to do to you?” When they respond, tell them, “Not yet…” and keep them guessing when or if it will happen. You can even make them repeat their request just to drive them crazy.
- Give Them an Explicit Countdown:
Start counting down how many more minutes (or actions) they have to wait before they can finally have what they want. Use dirty talk to describe exactly what’s going to happen at the end of the countdown, but drag it out as long as possible.
The Endgame: Who Holds Out the Longest?
- As your partner watches, they’ll have to decide when they can no longer resist and want to initiate something more. The longer they hold out, the more points they win.
- The Prize: Whoever holds out the longest gets to “come first” or choose another prize, such as a pheromone full body massage, or who leads the next part of the night’s adventure.
Scenario 4 - Midas Touch
Heighten anticipation and sensuality by guiding your partner’s touch to a specific spot using a “hot and cold” game, leading to a sweet and intimate reward when they strike gold.
Start by lighting the incense and setting a calm, intimate mood in the room (test the incense outside if you've never used it before). Turn on the Midas Touch playlist. Use the gold matches to light candles or dim the lights to create a soft, romantic glow. They apply the shimmering spray to their skin, so every touch and caress feels even more magical and alluring. She wears her gold body chain (lingerie is optional).
Blindfold Your Partner: The partner searching for the X should either close their eyes or wear a blindfold to heighten their other senses and focus on touch alone.
Marking the X
1. Choose a Spot:
The standing partner picks a secret spot on their body and, using their fingertip or a marker, draws an imaginary or real X somewhere on their skin. This spot is where the partner will “strike gold.”
2. Give Clues:
The searching partner will start by running their hand lightly over your body. They’ll glide one hand across your skin, trying to find the X. The partner who placed the X gives playful hints by saying “hotter” as they get closer to the spot and “colder” as they move further away.
Strike Gold
1. Finding the X:
Once the searching partner’s hand lands on the X, the partner can announce, “You’ve hit gold!” signaling that they’ve found the right spot.
2. The Golden Reward:
As a sweet reward for finding the X, lie down and run a trail of warm honey from a different starting point on your body to the spot where the X is. This could be a slow, sensual trail down your chest, across your stomach, or along your thigh—wherever feels exciting to you.
The Sweet Prize
1. Lick and Kiss:
Once the honey trail is set, your partner gets to follow it using only their lips and tongue. They will kiss and lick up the honey, savoring the sweetness and the closeness, until they reach the X.
2. Building Anticipation:
The blindfolded partner can take their time, tasting the honey and savoring the journey to the X, building anticipation and excitement with every slow, deliberate move.
Variations to Keep Things Interesting:
- Change Up the X Location: For the next round, switch roles or pick an entirely new, surprising place for the X to keep the game fresh and unexpected.
- Add More Clues: If you want to make it more challenging, add in extra clues like “warmer” or “lukewarm” to keep your partner guessing just how close they are to striking gold.
Connecting Questions
- What was the moment you first realized you truly cherished me?
- How have I supported you in the past that made you feel loved?
- When did you feel the most appreciated by me early in our relationship?
- What is something small from our past that means a lot to you but I might not know about?
- What qualities in me have stayed consistent from the beginning of our relationship?
- What’s a challenge we’ve overcome together that made you cherish our relationship more?
- How did our relationship change your view of love and marriage?
- What’s something you learned about me that made you fall deeper in love?
- When you look back at where we started, what do you cherish most about our journey?
Present:
- How do I make you feel cherished in our daily lives right now?
- What’s one thing you appreciate about me today that you might not always mention?
- How do we prioritize each other in our busy lives? Is there anything we could improve?
- What are small ways we show each other love and affection?
- In what ways do I make you feel special or valued in our current season?
- What recent moment made you feel extra connected or close to me?
- How can I better support you or make you feel more cherished right now?
- What is something I do now that reminds you of why you chose me as your partner?
Future:
- What are your hopes for us in the future that would help us continue cherishing each other?
- How do you imagine us growing together over the years? What can we do to stay connected?
- · How do you envision us staying connected as we grow older together?
- · What’s a dream or goal you have for us as a couple in the future?
- · How can we continue to prioritize our relationship when life gets even busier?
- · What traditions or habits do you hope we’ll carry into the future to keep our relationship strong?
- · How can we keep the romance alive as we enter new seasons of life together?
- · What’s one area of our relationship you’d love for us to explore or deepen in the coming years?
- · How do you think we can build a legacy of love for our children or future generations?
Item List
EveryLove Matching Lingerie
Sensuva Pheromone Massage Oil
Gold Shimmer Spray
Gold Body Jewelry
Incense and Tray
Sparkle Infused Honey
Matches
Beyond the Box
Go beyond your intimate date night this month by utilizing the Weekly Marriage Check-In.
It will help you and your partner align your priorities and avoid potential roadblocks throughout your week. We recommend having a weekly meeting to fill out your sheet together!