Ephesians 4:2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.

"We thank You for the gift of love and the blessing of our relationship. As we embark on this date night, may it be a time of joy, connection, and intimacy. Help us to cherish each other deeply and to communicate openly, creating beautiful memories together. May this experience draw us closer to one another and to You."

He warms the massage stones, feeling their weight and heat. She slips into the lingerie, the fabric catching light with every move. He pours a small amount of the gold shimmer massage oil into his palms and lets it warm before gliding it along her shoulders and arms, leaving behind a soft golden sheen. The room hums with quiet anticipation as the scent of the oil fills the air.

How to Play:

The Rule: You’re only allowed to make two sounds—“Mmm” and “Aaah.” No talking, no words, just instinct.

Choose who begins as the giver and receiver. The giver starts by slowly massaging their partner’s skin using the massage stones in long, sweeping strokes—down the back, along the legs, tracing the lines of tension until the muscles surrender. Once the body begins to soften, the stones are set aside and the gold shimmer massage oil takes over—smoothed into every curve with palms and fingertips.

Let the sounds guide you:

“Mmm” means keep going.

“Aaah” means more—deeper, slower, stronger.

Those two sounds become the rhythm of the evening.

When the heat builds and the tension deepens, the giver reaches for the lube. Glide replaces friction. The lines between massage and intimacy begin to blur as golden hands move with purpose, following every cue from a sigh or a breath.

Go for Gold:

When you can both feel the moment rising—when the sounds turn to murmurs and the air feels electric—finish the massage with one long, slow press of your hands. Let the game shift naturally into whatever comes next, with bodies glistening and breath shallow.

Bonus Rule:

If either of you breaks the “Mmm” or “Aaah” rule, the other takes control for five minutes—deciding where the massage goes, how the stones move, or how the oil is applied.

They end the night tangled together, golden skin against golden skin, the scent of shimmer oil lingering as proof of how touch alone can say everything.

Deepen your emotional connection through heartfelt conversations, synchronized breathing, and intimate touch.

Begin with a sensual massage using the gold shimmer oil. Each share 1-2 things you admire about the other.

Cuddle together in a cozy space. You’ll start by sharing ways in which you cherish one another (use the prompts from Cherishing Conversations if needed).

Connecting Questions

• What’s a memory of ours that always makes you smile when you think about it?”
• How did our relationship change your view of love and marriage?
• What is something I do now that reminds you of why you chose me as your partner?

Synchronized Breathing Exercise

After sharing emotionally, transition into a more physical, yet still intimate practice—synchronized breathing.

1. Facing Each Other: Sit facing one another, close enough to touch, but without touching just yet. Begin by gently matching each other’s breath—inhale when your partner inhales, and exhale when they do. Keep your eyes softly closed or gaze into each other’s eyes, focusing solely on the rhythm of your shared breath.

2. Deepen the Connection: As you start to synchronize, place your hands on each other’s chest so you can feel the rise and fall of your breath together. This helps to ground both of you in the present moment, reminding you of your shared bond and the love that flows between you.

Breathing While Making Love

Once you’ve mastered synchronized breathing, carry that deep connection into a physical expression of your love.

1. Stay Present: As you come together, keep focusing on matching each other’s breath—inhale and exhale in sync while your bodies move together. The goal is to not rush, but to stay completely present with each other, feeling every movement, every touch, every breath as one.

2. Build the Intensity: The longer you stay connected through your breathing, the more intense your emotional and physical connection will become. Allow your synchronized breath to guide the rhythm and pace, cherishing each other slowly through touch and keeping your breathing unified. This sense of oneness will create an experience that feels both tender and electrifying.

The Final Moment—A Year Apart

Now, end the evening with a powerful exercise in cherishing each other as if this were your last moment together for the next year.

1. Hold and Touch: Sit or lie down, holding each other close. Imagine that after tonight, you won’t see each other for an entire year. This is your last chance to hold each other, to kiss, to touch, and to speak from the heart.

2. What Would You Say? Whisper to each other what you would say in this final moment—what would you want your partner to remember, to feel? Let the weight of this imaginary separation make every word, every touch more meaningful.

3. Final Hold: End by holding each other in complete stillness, just breathing together, as if you never want to let go.

Why This Works:

This experience blends emotional and physical intimacy, making you both feel deeply cherished and connected. By starting with questions that open up your hearts, then moving into a synchronized breathing practice, and ending with a powerful visualization, you'll strengthen your bond and create memories that last long after the night ends.

Test your willpower and build anticipation as one partner shows off while the other remains still in bed, unable to touch—until they decide to take action. The partner who can resist touching the longest wins.

Setup:

1. The Mirror Setup: One partner will sit on the bed or couch while the other stands in front of them. The standing partner will place a mirror a few feet behind themselves so their partner can catch glimpses posing of them from multiple angles (If posing partner is facing the bed, their spouse will be able to see their back in the mirror).

2. The Challenge: One partner will perform a series of poses or actions (sweet, sexy, and daring) while the other sits or lies in bed, watching but not touching. The sitting partner will decide when they can no longer resist and initiate something more.

3. The Win: The partner who can hold out the longest without touching wins the game. Whoever makes it further down the list gets to “win” by either coming first or getting a different prize of their choice.

Bonus tips:

• Turn on the Midas Touch playlist to help set the mood.
• The posing partner may change outfits or utilize props when they choose.
• She may choose to wear a sexy/fancy outfit.
• He may choose to begin by wearing a fancy suit or sexy pajamas/boxers.
• He may want to rub himself down with body oil during his turn.
• We recommend grabbing a chair for the posing partner.

*We created a sexy sequence as an example. Or come up with your own order and actions using the options below as inspiration.

To begin:

Choose your top three from each category before you begin and craft your sexy sequence!

OR USE this bank of example actions to create your own sequence as you go!

Sweet Poses (to Start Slow)

1. Gentle Hair Toss: Run your fingers slowly through your hair, letting it cascade down your back or shoulders.
2. Blow a Kiss: Turn your head to the mirror and then back toward your partner, blowing a sweet kiss with a playful smile.
3. Crossed Legs Pose: Sit on the edge of the bed or a chair, legs crossed and hands resting gently on your lap.
4. Hand Over Heart: Stand tall with your hand over your heart, gazing softly at your partner, symbolizing your affection.
5. Spinning Twirl: Do a slow twirl in place, letting your body move softly as your partner watches your every move.
6. Gentle Stretch: Stretch your arms up above your head, as if just waking up, making the movement long and graceful.
7. Swaying Hips: Stand and gently sway your hips from side to side, moving to the rhythm of your own breath.
8. Wink: Turn your body to the side and glance back at your partner, giving them a cute, playful wink.
9. Knee-Up Pose: Stand and bring one knee up as if you’re posing in a soft, pin-up style, balancing on one leg.
10. Soft Touch: Gently run your fingers down your arm or leg, showing softness and tenderness, but without any rush.

Sexy Poses (Turn Up the Heat)

1. Slow Shirt Removal: Slowly unbutton your shirt or slide your top off one shoulder, teasing without rushing to reveal.
2. Hands Over Head Pose: Stand facing your partner with your hands above your head, letting your body be fully open to their gaze.
3. Legs Crossed on the Bed: Sit or lie on the bed, one leg draped over the other, propped on your elbows with a flirty smile.
4. Mirror Gaze: Turn toward the mirror and look at yourself seductively, as if admiring your own beauty, knowing your partner is watching.
5. Pulling Panties Aside: Tease your partner by pulling your panties or underwear aside just enough to expose a small part of yourself. Hold the pose for a moment, letting them take in the sight before covering back up.
6. Hip Pop: Stand with one hand on your hip, slightly pushing your hips to one side in a confident, alluring stance.
7. Tease with a Sheet: Hold a bed sheet or blanket and wrap it around your body, slowly revealing parts of yourself in a playful tease.
8. Oil rub: Begin applying oil to various parts of your body, slowly getting closer to you partner so the pheromones entice them.
9. Lowering Zipper: Slowly lower a zipper on your clothing, holding eye contact with your partner the entire time.
10. Finger Trail Underneath: Slide one hand under the fabric of your underwear, just letting your fingertips graze your skin. Move your hand slowly, drawing it back out after a few seconds to tease your partner by only hinting at what's beneath.

Daring Poses(For the Bold)

1. Bend Over Slowly: Stand facing away from your partner and slowly bend over, giving them a full view.
2. Clothing Slide: Slowly slide off a key piece of clothing—like pants or lingerie—letting it fall to the floor in one smooth motion.
3. Knees on the Bed: Get on your knees on the bed and crawl slowly toward your partner, stopping just before you’re within touching distance.
4. Mirror Striptease: Face the mirror and begin removing clothing slowly, allowing both yourself and your partner to watch as you reveal more and more.
5. Hovering Kiss: Lean in as if you're about to kiss your partner, but stop just millimeters from their lips. Let your breath tickle their skin and hover there for a few seconds before pulling away, keeping them craving more.
6. Hands on the Headboard: Kneel on the bed and lean forward to grab the headboard, pushing your hips slightly backward in a provocative pose. Glance over your shoulder at your partner while holding that position.
7. Legs Wide Open on the Bed: Sit at the edge of the bed with your legs spread wide open, one hand resting gently on your inner thigh while maintaining steady eye contact with your partner. It’s an invitation to test their willpower.
8. Clothing Drop at Your Feet:
   Stand in front of your partner, lock eyes, and let a piece of clothing slip slowly down your body until it falls to your feet. Then, slowly step out of it without breaking eye contact.
9. Close their eyes: Have the sitting partner close their eyes for 15 seconds while you get into a seductive pose.
10. Slow Full-Body Caress: Stand in front of your partner and slowly run your hands over your body, starting at your neck and moving down to your chest, stomach, and hips. Tease them by gently squeezing or stroking sensitive areas, making it clear that you're enjoying your own touch.
11. Self-Cupping Tease: Place both hands over your chest, gently cupping and squeezing, but do it slowly and teasingly. Let your fingers trail off after each caress, making it clear that you’re appreciating your own touch.
12. Finger Suck Tease: Bring one finger to your lips and slowly, sensually lick or suck on it while maintaining eye contact with your partner. Then, let your hand trail down your body in a lingering, teasing motion.
13. Breathe Along Their Neck: Lie next to your partner and slowly exhale along their neck and collarbone, your breath barely touching their skin. Trace your breath around their body but hold back from actual contact, making them want to pull you closer.
14. Ask What They Want: Tease your partner by asking, “What do you want me to do to you?” When they respond, tell them, “Not yet…” and keep them guessing when or if it will happen. You can even make them repeat their request just to drive them crazy.
15. Give Them an Explicit Countdown:
    Start counting down how many more minutes (or actions) they have to wait before they can finally have what they want. Use dirty talk to describe exactly what’s going to happen at the end of the countdown, but drag it out as long as possible.

The Endgame: Who Holds Out the Longest?

• As your partner watches, they’ll have to decide when they can no longer resist and want to initiate something more. The longer they hold out, the more points they win.
• The Prize: Whoever holds out the longest gets to “come first” or choose another prize, such as a pheromone full body massage, or who leads the next part of the night’s adventure.

• What was the moment you first realized you truly cherished me?
• How have I supported you in the past that made you feel loved?
• When did you feel the most appreciated by me early in our relationship?
• What is something small from our past that means a lot to you but I might not know about?
• What qualities in me have stayed consistent from the beginning of our relationship?
• What’s a challenge we’ve overcome together that made you cherish our relationship more?
• How did our relationship change your view of love and marriage?
• What’s something you learned about me that made you fall deeper in love?
• When you look back at where we started, what do you cherish most about our journey?

Present:

• How do I make you feel cherished in our daily lives right now?
• What’s one thing you appreciate about me today that you might not always mention?
• How do we prioritize each other in our busy lives? Is there anything we could improve?
• What are small ways we show each other love and affection?
• In what ways do I make you feel special or valued in our current season?
• What recent moment made you feel extra connected or close to me?
• How can I better support you or make you feel more cherished right now?
• What is something I do now that reminds you of why you chose me as your partner?

Future:

• What are your hopes for us in the future that would help us continue cherishing each other?
• How do you imagine us growing together over the years? What can we do to stay connected?
• ·  How do you envision us staying connected as we grow older together?
• ·  What’s a dream or goal you have for us as a couple in the future?
• ·  How can we continue to prioritize our relationship when life gets even busier?
• ·  What traditions or habits do you hope we’ll carry into the future to keep our relationship strong?
• ·  How can we keep the romance alive as we enter new seasons of life together?
• ·  What’s one area of our relationship you’d love for us to explore or deepen in the coming years?
• ·  How do you think we can build a legacy of love for our children or future generations?

How to Use Hot Stones (At Home)

What you’ll need

• Smooth massage stones (basalt or similar)
  
• Gold shimmer massage oil (for glide) and a towel
  
• Option A: A pot for a warm-water bath + kitchen thermometer
  
• Option B: A slow cooker (crock pot) + kitchen thermometer
  
• Tongs or a slotted spoon, clean hand towel(s), and a dry bowl
  

Heat setup (choose one)

Option A — Warm-Water Bath (Stovetop)

1. Fill a pot with enough water to cover stones by ~1 inch.
   
2. Heat on low–medium until the water reaches 120–130°F (49–54°C).
   
   
   Home use sweet spot = 125°F / 52°C. (Pros may go hotter, but keep it safer at home.)
   
   
   
3. Turn off the burner. Add stones carefully. Let them sit 5–10 min to warm through.
   
4. Use tongs to transfer stones to a towel; pat completely dry.
   

Option B — Slow Cooker (Crock Pot)

1. Fill with water to cover stones by ~1 inch.
   
2. Set to Low (or Warm if your unit runs hot). Cover 20–30 min.
   
3. Check temperature: aim for 120–130°F (49–54°C). Adjust setting or lid to stabilize.
   
4. Use tongs to move stones to a towel; pat dry.
   

Never boil, microwave, or guess the temperature. Always verify with a thermometer.

Safety checks (always)

• Test every stone on your inner wrist or forearm first. It should feel comfortably hot, not sharp or stingy.
  
• First contact: touch the stone to skin through a towel for 1–2 seconds, then glide.
  
• Keep stones moving—don’t leave a hot stone parked on bare skin.
  
• Avoid irritated skin, open wounds, sunburn, areas with reduced sensation, or if pregnant (skip lower back/abdomen).
  
• If anyone has circulatory/nerve issues (e.g., neuropathy, diabetes), keep temps closer to 115–120°F (46–49°C) and go gently.
  

Massage flow (simple + luxe)

1. Prep the skin: Warm a small pool of gold shimmer massage oil in your hands and lightly oil the area (back, shoulders, legs). Oil on skin, not soaking the stones.
   
2. Glide technique: Hold a stone in your palm like a bar of soap. Use long, slow strokes along muscles (not bones). Pressure should feel heavy-and-melty, never pokey.
   
3. Stone rotation: When a stone cools, swap it for a hot one. Keep the cooler stone in a dry bowl; hot stones rest in the warm water.
   
4. Suggested sequence (6–10 minutes per area):
   
   
   Back: From low back up to shoulders, then across the shoulder blades in wide figure-eights.
   
   
   Legs (back): From ankle to thigh in long passes; avoid the back of the knee.
   
   
   Legs (front): From ankle to hip, inside then outside line.
   
   
   Shoulders/neck: Small circles with a warm, not hot stone. Stay off the spine and throat.
   
   
   Arms: Wrist to shoulder, then palm a warm stone over the deltoid with gentle circles.
   
   
   
5. Transition to intimacy (optional): When muscles are melted, set stones aside, add a ribbon of lube if you’re continuing—glide replaces effort.
   

Aftercare & cleanup

• Place used stones on a clean, dry towel to cool.
  
• Wash stones in warm soapy water, rinse, and dry completely.
  
• Wipe your heater pot/slow cooker and let everything air-dry before storing.
  
• Store stones in a soft pouch or towel to prevent chipping.
  

Quick tips

• Keep a second towel nearby as a “landing pad” so stones don’t drip on bedding.
  
• If a stone ever feels too hot on your wrist, cool it 10–20 seconds on the towel before using.
  
• Small changes = big comfort: angle the stone, lighten pressure, or add a touch more oil anytime it drags.